“Who marries the jump-off?”

May 23, 2010 @ 2:11 pm | By TheFeministGriote | 2 Comments

We all remember the movie Pretty Woman, with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere. The rich sophisticated man marries the boisterous hooker.  Now, we all know that is not how the story ends in real life. In real life once a man has labeled you as simply his pleasure repository, it’s hard to shake the label of a good time girl. Men never marry the cheap easy date, but so many of us women are so willing and able to be that cheap date. I am not knocking your or judging you, but if  you are spending your Birthday alone, Valentines Day alone, and you can’t call that man and tell him about your bad day then what is in it for you?  By always making yourself readily available for him when he is ready to have sex,  you will always solidify your place at the bottom of the food chain.

I can hear you know, “he buys me jewelry, pays for my hair/ nails and he gives me a little change”okay…Once again, that is all well and good but why do you still feel lonely and feel so jaded? As human beings we crave companionship and companionship is not summed up by only having sex with someone.  This is where the confusion comes in, he tells you he is not looking for nothing serious and he is just looking for sex and you tell him you feel the same way(knowing full well that you don’t feel that way, but you want him/some). The relationship progresses and in the beginning everyone is happy for the first five minutes, till you want more and then what? Once a man sees you in one particular light its really hard for them to shift gears. To avoid this hoopla, just be honest with men. Tell them that you are looking for a relationship, if that is what you are truly seeking .

It’s okay to admit that you want more. Your goal should not be to be the side-ho or just a jump-off. If you want men to take you seriously, you must present yourself seriously. Stop letting men dictate the entire situation and make decisions for you. It’s your body and your emotions take charge. If you are a woman who wants to be married someday, then you need to break this habit of being the jump-off. If you are one of those women who wants to be a jump-off and and is not looking for marriage then more power to you my sister. I can’t imagine how fulfilling and gratifying a life like that can be, but if it’s your choice then I ultimately respect it. As a woman you always have a choice and you can change the course of your life at anytime. Love yourself enough and demand his respect. You are not an escalator, he can’t jump on/off and ride you at will.

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  2. As a man I have to say that I agree 100% with you sister. As a boy/young man, I was running around treating and categorizing women in similar ways that you stated. If a girl was a certain level with me, then that’s where I kept it at, even when I knew that the woman was pursuing more. As a man I see that I was wrong for that, and if I didn’t seek to properly elevate myself then I would have been allowing this horrible cycle to continue. Our sisters need to hold themselves up to higher standard though as well. Because as the old saying goes, it takes two to tango. If truly knew their POWER, they would understand that they hold the key to the relationship that they truly want. Education plays a huge part in that. If all of these boys/young men couldn’t run around doing whatever they wanted with whoever they wanted to because sisters held themselves to a higher standard, they would get their act together QUICK. Keep empowering the sisters with this knowledge. I love and respect the movement that you are striving for.

    PEACE

    Jared

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