May 28, 2010 @ 11:47 am | By TheFeministGriote | 1 Comment
“For women, the need to desire to nurture each other is not pathological but redemptive, and it is within that knowledge that our real power is rediscovered”. -Audre Lorde from the essay “Masters Tools”
I am part of the illustrious sorority that was panting and waiting impatiently on the second installment of Sex and the City. May 27th could not come quick enough. Truth be told I did not watch the show religiously but I have watched enough episodes and read enough articles on the show to understand and appreciate the indelible mark that Sex and the City has made on our pop culture and especially the female culture.
The show SATC is rooted in very strong feminist ideals. Once you get past the idol worship of designer labels and the over the top decadence that most of us can only dream of. SATC shows us the important role that friendships play in the lives of women. As women we are always fixated on the notion of finding the “one” finding our soulmate but we do not give proper credence to our friendships. A good solid friendship that is rooted in truth, that is mutual, and that is positive is equivalent to finding a soulmate. As women once we start dating we completely abandon our friendships and put our relationships first which is the adult thing, but to completely dismiss your friends in lieu of a relationship is a mistake of epic proportions. Lovers can and will come and go but a good friendship will carry you through a lifetime. As women we need to stop buying into the fallacy that other women are filled with drama and they are all trying to destroy your happy homes. That is a divide and conquer tactic that men have fed to women and we have taken that and ran with it. It kills me when we as women look at each other and treat each other with such contempt. Truth be told we often hate other women because they magnify our bad habits that we are trying so hard to hide or simply because we are jealous!
We cannot allow our insecurities to stand in the way of connecting with one another. If you see a woman wearing a cute dress, shoe, bag, or has a beautiful feature open your mouth and compliment her. Yes, there are some women who should and cannot be trusted but its not all of US. We need to stop acting like these women on reality shows who allow themselves to be depicted as insecure wild animals who bicker all day. If you have a good friendship then you need to celebrate it. The same way you nurture your relationship with your man/lover you need to spend that same energy on your friendship. A good friendship will propel you to greatness and sustain you at your darkest hour. We do not put enough emphasis on how important it is for women to fellowship with each other. As women we were all born into this global sorority so embrace the membership!
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