Sep 13, 2010 @ 3:14 pm | By TheFeministGriote | 3 Comments
“This is how I look without makeup
And with no bra my ninny’s sag down low
My hair ain’t never hung down to my shoulders
And it might not grow
Ya’ never know”
-Erykah Badu from the Song “Cleva”
A couple of weeks ago I was perusing through the statuses on facebook and a friend put up on her status that the humidity was not cooperating with her permed coif and at the end of her status she stamped it #teamnaturalHair. I remember reading the status and being a bit perplexed. I always associate natural hair with hair that is not processed or chemically treated in any way shape or form and then the other day I read a tweet on twitter that was blasting women who wear make-up and was basically trying to say that women who insists on wearing makeup every time they go out are insecure ugly women and that too was stamped #naturalbeauty.
I notice that social media has become both the platform and arsenal that many women use to preach there gospel for or against makeup and natural hair. Its a war among these two camps both are wanting to assert which team is more beautiful or natural. I find this disparaging banter both funny and problematic. I know so many women who could not survive a week without not having weave in their hair nor could they survive without their creamy crack addiction better known as a perm. I find it hilarious when women with processed hair stamp themselves #naturalbeauties and want to berate those women who wear makeup. And of course there is blame on the other side of the pond, we have the natural hair sistren who often look down upon women who wear weaves, process their hair, or wear makeup. This appears to be a losing battle that cannot be won no matter the side you find yourself on. Me being me once again I find myself in the gray area of this debate. I am on team #naturalhair or #nohair, but I wear makeup. Actually I love makeup. I love to play with colors and create looks that compliment my outfit or mood. I am no more insecure than any other woman living in this sexist shallow society that I know. I am a perfectionist and like to be well represented when I walk out. I wear makeup because I feel it gives me a polished look. Plus, I love the shape of my face and I like to treat it like a canvas and adorn it with colors as I wish. I don’t wear makeup to do my house chores or when I go exercise therefore, I am not addicted to it. Actually, during this summer I have reevaluated my femininity and find myself wearing it less and sometimes not at all.
The fact of the matter is that femininity is vast enough that it can encompass all women. No matter how we chose to market our femininity and beauty. Those of us who wear makeup or don’t, perm our hair or let it be in its natural state, those of us who like to wear dresses and skirts, and those women who prefer t-shirt and jeans. All women can find their respective place within the spectrum of femininity. Why must women always operate in this competitive mode that seeks to annihilate and alienate each other? As women we have the right to represent ourselves as we see fit without the fear of being scrutinized by other women. As women we already have to subjected to men comparing us to one another, treating us like a pieces of meat, and looking past our humanity and only seeing us in parts be it our breast, our asses, and of course our vagina’s. With that already hostile situation in place we as women do not need to exacerbate the situation with our ridiculous judgment of each other. We need to celebrate the Plain Jane’s, Top Models, The Divas, girl next door, the sporty ladies, the Earth Mama’s the natural hair, processed hair, bare face, and painted face. The arch can accommodate us all!
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