Apr 11, 2011 @ 10:27 am | By TheFeministGriote | 4 Comments
In America we do not have monarchies, but we are certainly obsessed with them. Since the announcement of Prince Williams and Kate Middleton nuptials we are briefed everyday by our “news” outlets about the wedding which will take place on April 29th. My invitation must have gotten lost in the mail. Kanye has been invited to the nuptials, why not me? My first introduction to a real life princess growing up was Princess Diana. I always thought she was beautiful and impeccably well dressed. As I got older and learned about her tumultous life, Princess Diana taught me a valuable lesson that is still being echoed today by beautiful women who are in and out of the spotlight being pretty isn’t everything.
It was no secret that Prince Charles was carrying an affair with Camilla Parker Bowles while he was married to Princess Diana . There was a part of me that never understood this. Princess Diana seemed to be the total package. Princess Diana was brilliant, well dressed, and pretty, but yet Prince Charles was completely enamored with Camilla who was not half as chic and as gorgeous as Princess Diana. In my head I didn’t think it was possible for the pretty woman to “loose her man” to the not-so-pretty-other woman. This revelation both surprised me and gave me hope.
As an adult woman who has read some books, dated some men, and been exposed to a little more life, I now understand fully that looks aren’t everything. The fashion industry, entertainment industry, and media still promote that beauty is everything and those who aren’t beautiful should do everything in their power to make themselves beautiful, but we thinking people know better. The importance of beauty has been engrained in some of people so much that it has created a society filled with beautiful people who have only cultivated their looks and nothing else. This becomes a tragic character flaw that is anything, but attractive.
It appears that semi-attractive women seem to be winning in love and life over their pretty counterparts. For example Khloe Kardashian is always referred to as the less beautiful Kardashian. If Khloe were part of another family and wasn’t being constantly being compared to Kim and Khourney I am sure she would not be considered less attractive. Nonetheless, it appears that Khloe seems to be the happiest one among her two gorgeous siblings. Khloe is happily married to Lamar Odom and they appear to be making it work. Meanwhile, Kim is 30 childless and not yet married. A reality Kim herself seems to be shocked and confused about. It is no secret that Kim longs to be married with kids. Khourtney on the other hand has a child with her professional douche bag boyfriend Scott and that relationship is anything, but healthy. If we were tallying up points it appears that Khloe is winning.
Then of course we can take Halle Berry for example. Halle Berry is still considered extremely beautiful and she seems to be defying the laws of aging. But Halle has been a victim of domestic violence, married to a sex addict, and is now involved in a messy custody battle. On the other hand, her “good friend” Oprah who may not be considered gorgeous by most people’s standards has been with Stedman for decades. What seems to be the problem with the pretty girls?
In my opinion men may like the idea of being with an insanely gorgeous woman and not know how to integrate the ideal with the real woman once they get with her. It could be that pretty women didn’t take much time to cultivate their inner beauty and just simply banked on the outer beauty which may attribute to their failed relationships. As women we need to be cognizant of the fact that there will always be someone younger, prettier, and more taut than us, but who we are on the inside is what truly attracts and keep our lovers coming back to us. More time needs to be spent on who we are internally. It’s nice to be well dressed in the latest fashions, but with what are we dressing our mind and souls with?
What do you think is pretty enough?
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