Aug 16, 2010 @ 7:28 am | By TheFeministGriote | 4 Comments
What is a feminist? I have had countless conversations with men and women who I have had the pleasure of reeducating them on what feminism actually is. Both genders seem to believe that in order to be a feminist one must be anti-man and preferably lesbian. If you do your research at one point there were several women who subscribed to the thought that only lesbians could be true feminists because they did not interact with men on an emotional and physical level. That is an extreme ridiculous notion that I do not subscribe believe in.
The best definition of feminism that I agree with and pledge allegiance to is the definition that bell hooks proposes in her book called Feminist Theory from margin to center in the book bell hooks offers this definition: “Feminism is the struggle to end sexist oppression. Its aim is not to benefit solely any specific group of women, any particular race or class of women. It does not privilege women over men.” There is no rule that states that in order for me to be pro-woman that I must inherently be anti-male. I believe the sexes are equal and both men and women must work together in order to abolish sexism. Men are not more superior than women and women are not smarter or better than men. I truly believe that both sexes can co-exist with one another in a non-competing way. Patriarchy has brain-washed men and women into thinking that we must be in constant competition to dominate one another. That is not a feminist ideal that is a patriarchal ideology.
Being a young, Black, female feminist who is very much part of the hip-hop nation is very hard. Every day, I must walk a very well orchestrated tightrope. I love hip-hop, but I struggle to find artist both male and female artist who uplift me and respect my mind. When it comes to dating I expect a guy to call me and ask me out. It is not in my nature to pursue a man. More power to the women who exercises that prerogative, but that is not me. I still expect men to hold doors for women, give up their seat on the bus for a woman, or hold the elevator door if you see me coming. Politically and socially I align myself with feminism, but that doesn’t mean that I do not want to be treated like a woman nor am I ready to see chivalry ride off into the sunset never to be seen again. I know this may startle and even confuse some of you, but that is life. As human beings we are a series of contradictions. The key to life is balancing these contradictions and finding the center of your own truth that reigns supreme in your core. “The personal is political” everyday I consciously marry my political feminist ideals with my personal mores and standards. It is not easy, but I am fully committed to the task. I am proud of being a feminist and wished more men and women adopted the lifestyle.
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